Feeling Detatched =[

[ladybird11]

Hun, I feel a bit the same.

With number 1 there was so much focus on organising a nursery etc; and even same for number 2 as they have their own rooms.

Until I find out the gender of this baby I can't really do much but look at my growing belly and feel the butterflies .

Don't feel bad hun, I bet you'll be overwhelmed with love when you first set eyes on your precious bundle

xoxo

[pearshaker]

JwithJ :hugs:

It seems just from the replies here that you're certainly not alone.. chin up chicky.. it's good to talk about the difficult things.. get it off your chest.

many :hugs: for you

[Jas]

Just another thought....

First baby you kinda feel really bonded and so in love with your baby and that is the only kind of love you have ever known as a mum with a child and then that baby is born and you find out what love really is and your heart has to stretch to fit in the love you feel so then when you are preg with number 2 you feel like you are less in love with that baby than you were the first but really its just the same as you had with your first before they were born, you just dont realise it....I really hope I've written that so it makes sense!

The love will come, maybe at birth or it might take a while, either way is ok and there is no need to feel any guilt, just keep sharing and talking and you will get there.

I think maybe spend some time in your babies room and I can understand that it would be hard not knowing your babies gender but just sit and relax, shut your eyes and imagine doing things with your baby, sitting and breast or bottlefeeding, which ever you will do, bathing your baby and maybe just sit and massage your belly with some cream and sing and talk to your belly. Maybe go and have a pregnancy massage and even have a little baby shower, I know its your 2nd so you mightnot want to go the whole way but maybe just a morning tea and girly movie as a last chicks thing before baby comes and just say no gifts, maybe make a belly cast or go for a 3d scan, all of these things might help you bond I hope something I've said has helped!

[*TripleJ*]

thanks jas i didnt think about it that way but that makes sense